# Kinassery | Mehar's Digital Garden Kinassery is a utopia kind of non existing space that I wish to create. These ideas are about the world I wish to see and live. എല്ലാർക്കും മനസിൽ ഒരു സമത്വ സുന്ദര ഭാരതം കാണില്ലേ, നമ്മളുടെ മനസ്സിൽ ശരിയെന്നു തോന്നുന്ന, നമ്മൾക്കു മതിയായ അളവിൽ സ്വാതന്ത്ര്യമുള്ള ഒരു സ്ഥലം. ഓരോരുത്തർക്കും ഓരോരോ ഭാവന ആയിരിക്കും അങ്ങനത്തെ ഒരു സ്ഥലത്തെ പറ്റി. മദ്യപുഴകൾ ഒഴുകുന്ന ഹൂറിമാരുള്ള ഒരു സ്വർഗത്തെപ്പറ്റി പണ്ട് ഉസ്താദുമാർ പറയുന്നതോർക്കുന്നു. പിന്നെ വലുതായപ്പോൾ അങ്ങനെ മരിച്ചുപോയിട്ട് കിട്ടും എന്നതൊക്കെ വൻ റിസ്ക് ഏർപ്പാടാണെന്ന് തോന്നി. നമ്മൾ ഓരോരുത്തരും നമ്മൾക്ക് ശരിയെന്നു തോന്നുന്ന, നീതി നടപ്പയെന്നു ഉറപ്പുള്ള ഒരു ലോകത്ത് ജീവിക്കാൻ കൊതിക്കുന്നു, നമ്മൾ അറിയാതെ തന്നെ നാം അതിനായി പ്രയത്നിക്കുന്നു. യാത്രകൾ പോകുന്നതാണ് ജീവിതത്തിന്റെ യഥാർത്ഥ അർത്ഥം എന്ന് വിശ്വസിക്കുന്ന ഒരാൾ യാത്രപോകുന്നതിന്റെ കൂടെ തന്റെ സുഹൃത്തുക്കളെ അതിനായി പ്രേരിപ്പിക്കുകയും ചെയ്യുന്ന പോലെ. കിണാശ്ശേരി അത് പോലെ ഓരോരുത്തരുടെയും മനസിലെ സമത്വം സുന്ദര ലോകമാണ്. പല രീതിയിൽ നാം അതിനെ യാഥാർഥ്യമാക്കാൻ പരിശ്രമിച്ചുകൊണ്ടിരിക്കുന്നു. എന്റെ കിനാശ്ശേരിയെ പറ്റിയുള്ള ചിന്തകളും ആഗ്രഹങ്ങളുമാണ് ഞാൻ ഡിജിറ്റൽ ഗാർഡനിലൂടെയും പോഡ്കാസ്റ്റിലൂടെയും പങ്കുവെക്കാൻ ശ്രമിക്കുന്നത്. {% hint style="info" %} ## "Ideas are perishables" There are a lot of ideas that come to my mind, grows or dies over time. I wish to document some of them, mostly because I wanted to refer those with people I care about while conversing. {% endhint %} # Digital Garden A Digital garden is a place where ideas grow. Unlike blogs, it might not have an article kind of full structure in the beginning. I should be scribbling ideas here on the go. The whole idea of Digital Garden is inspired by my dear friend and mentor [Hrishi](https://stultus.in/) - Check out his digital garden [here](https://wiki.stultus.in/). > In basic terms, it is a different format for written content on the web. It’s about moving away from blog posts ordered by dates and categories, into more of an interlinked web of notes. Blog posts are articles at a point in time, while here it is living document. [Digital gardens](https://joelhooks.com/digital-garden) are also known as [Zettelkasten](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zettelkasten) or Second Brain. > > From Hrishi's Garden # Intro - About Myself - Mehar ![](/files/-MUo0acqo1fPXy6mY7KQ) Hi, Mehar here from [TinkerHub](http://tinkerhub.org) is my most common way of introducing myself. That's my public identity these days. I see work as an extension of who am I, even though this is a personal space you could find a lot of things around the domain I work. I tried to be unique or at least not to fit in the systems. I never find doing anything that anyone else can do as an interesting thing, maybe I'm an original thinker I used to feel at times. I tried to do things that interest me at all points of my life. One lead to another. Organising FOSS events to College Tech Fest to world's largest web maker party - [Maker Party Kochi](https://medium.com/@meharmp/how-i-co-hosted-the-worlds-largest-web-maker-party-started-a-learning-culture-maker-party-9d12719c33be) during college days. Build apps for Blackberry app world. Bagged some awards limited Edition phones and a decent amount through selling paid apps on store. This happened while I was in third year. Financially independent from that time onwards, made a [series of tweets](https://twitter.com/meharmp/status/1364046436346695680) about that recently. Check out the [Deccan Chronicle article ](https://www.deccanchronicle.com/141216/nation-current-affairs/article/kozhikode-youth-develops-secure-browser-app-blackberry)about my startup life. I was running Incubators and Accelerators as part of the [Kerala Startup Mission (KSUM)](https://startupmission.kerala.gov.in/). Resigned after 3 years with KSUM and moved full time with TinkerHub Foundation in the mid of 2018. [Technology Innovation Fellowship program](https://meharmp.medium.com/paid-to-dream-my-journey-as-a-fellow-of-kerala-startup-mission-152f60edfcd6) by Kerala Startup Mission, Kairos Fellowship for young startup entrepreneurs, Global Youth Forum, Global Cooperative Entrepreneurship (Mentor) are some of the programs I was part of. Headstart Network to support startup entrepreneurs is my major volunteering experience. # Contact To be frank, I choose my people and limit whom I spent time with very continuously. My most preferred way of conversation is in person - going for walk, having a meal together. Mostly do only with people i really know in person. [Email](mailto:meharmp@gmail.com) ( meharmp - at - gmail.com ) and [Instagram](http://instagram.com/meharmp) are two ways. Things related with TinkerHub can be send to WhatsApp could be the best way to get a response. Can't share the number here, you could get that through mail or Instagram. I don't like surprises, unless someone is not dying, please don't ring up. # People understanding others & Figuring out relationships It took me a while to see how different people are shaped up. Life was in autopilot for me for first two and half decades of my life. I didn't know how homes, families, parents and environment shapes different people to be who they are for a really long time in their life. I thought every home was like mine, everyone else was like me. Then it took a while to have deeper conversations and to see how much stories and experiences each one of us were having. From the time I figured how how my emotions are working, I was really really curious about how others feel and see things. I really started to build deeper conversations, about things that actually matters but not many talks about. Like insecurities, self doubts, little joys that they only know, stories that shaped them. Figuring out ourselves and figuring out others ( Relationships ) became my favourite thing to hear, to discuss and share experiences. **This section of garden primarily deals with notes about how do i see people, my reflections on different kinds relationships and experiences people shared with me.** # A place to call home While I was in Kozhikode with KSUM for two years, something really missed is having space/flat. Keeping a place for my people to come and feel at home was something on top of my mind. When somebody I care about seems to need help/feel lost, I really feel great to tell "come home, stay with us for few days" Just before this lockdown came to Kozhikode. Staying with family feels so good. Still, the last few days I was kind of missing that there is somebody waiting to come to the flat, all those beautiful conversations while watching raining from my balcony. It was raining here tonight, it feels so good to be alive. IcCompleted this small piece, have a read. {% content-ref url="/pages/-MUqM1vLx8lr6-r0LMZK" %} [ചുരുണ്ടുകൂടാനുള്ള ഇടങ്ങൾ | Cosy Spaces](/poems/cosy-spaces) {% endcontent-ref %} # The five people around you Even today I was wondering how people see things so differently. When we work/think 24x7 how to build a skilled youth for tomorrow, most of the people are stuck in shabari mala.\ \ This is something very true. I'm always grateful for the kind of people I was having at the end of my college days. They shaped my views.\ \ From there I deliberately choose people around me, and those people added many more. Today all my Eve's and even social feeds are stories of people who are challenging the status quo, taking action, building something new. So dear people, choose your closed ones. Let those people be kind, loving and with a mindset to grow.\ \ # Controlling Partners | കലിപ്പൻ 💕 കാന്താരി People who are insecure makes controlling behaviour. They fear that if their romantic partners are in free space, they may meet new interesting people and might leave them. That's the reason boyfriends didn't allow girlfriends to go for campus tours and trips with friends. The same go for GFs questions about all of her BFs female friends. **Where do these Kalippans coming from** Kalippans or angry men are by-products of patriarchy, who don't have an option to open up their mind or have a shoulder to cry on. They are asked not to show vulnerability or any emotions because men needed to be men. And men are powerful and control. **What we can do** 1\. Get out, you need an equal playground to have a conversation and make people understand that it's not going to work in a master-slave model. 2\. Understand, end of the day what everyone seeks for peace, a place where nobody judges. If you can, be that understanding, never judging a person to them. I feel so pity for all these angry controlling people as all I can see is a soul crying for care and love inside them. # Move out 🏙 Move from your home town for some time. Get a small space for yourself in a busy city. Earn enough to take you for a self date. Observe yourself, what you choose when you have the freedom to choose anything. Know yourself better. Have some 'post' time. Go for a walk. Fall in love with yourself. Try a few things and meet the real you. Make some friends, Date a few. Do these before you settle for the 'forever' Life will be good :) # Admiration I had a huge admiration for women in power, women in control, women who know who they are. Despite decades-long oppression and the whole world against them, how do they do these amazing things? I always wonder about people who are brave enough to reimagine the world, when I will be one like them. I have goosebumps when meeting / knowing about such women exists. # Hugs ചിലപ്പോൾ നിങ്ങൾക്ക് തോന്നാം ഇതല്ലാതെ ഒന്നും പറയാൻ ഉണ്ടാവാറില്ലേന്നു, എന്തെന്നാൽ സ്നേഹിക്കപ്പെട്ടൂ എന്ന് അറിയുന്നതിനേക്കാൾ മനുഷ്യനെ സ്വാതന്ത്രനാക്കുന്ന ഒന്നും ഇല്ല എല്ലാവരും ഒരിക്കലെങ്കിലും ഒരു കാമുക കണ്ണാലെ അവനവനെ കണ്ടു നോക്കണം നമ്മളുടെ കൊച്ചു കൊച്ചു കുറവുകളിൽ ഓഹ് നമ്മൾ അത്ര നല്ലതല്ല എന്നൊക്കെ തോന്നുമ്പോൾ ശരിക്കും സ്നേഹമുള്ള സന്തോഷമുള്ള കാരുണ്യമുള്ള നമ്മളെ തന്നെ ഒന്ന് കാണാൻ ഇടക്കൊക്കെ ആരേലും കെട്ടിപിടിക്കണം, ഒന്നും മനസിലാവാതെ ഇരിക്കുന്ന ദിവസങ്ങളില്ലേ അപ്പൊ അതിലും പ്രധാനം എന്താണെന്ന് അറിയോ, ഓടിച്ചെന്നു കെട്ടിപ്പിടിക്കാൻ ആരൊക്കെയോ ഉണ്ടെന്ന പ്രതീക്ഷ # Social Change # Micro-movements and online & offline communities Micro movements are the small groups like Kochi reads or the girls only travel group, which are community first & are creating spaces for people who otherwise didn't had access to.

# Reasonings for micro movements > create a note / proposal about why its important to bring together youngsters who are creating small movements on ground, like mental health communities or small treking teams. > > add a brief note as the context of this, more political reasonings to this as the state of kerala's context, few of them are the highest HDI in India - but there is lot more to grow, the growing extreme communal and rightwing ideologies dividing the societies based on cast and religion in the country, the need for more community activities that bring together all the youngsters together. also the patriarchy that slows down girls from here, such activities can be a cultural change agent. ### Chat GPT \ Certainly! Adding a context-specific note that addresses the political and socio-cultural landscape of Kerala, India, to the existing proposal will provide a deeper understanding of the unique challenges and opportunities in the region. Here's the additional contextual note: *** #### Contextual Note: Grassroots Movements in the Socio-Political Landscape of Kerala, India **High Human Development Index (HDI)** Kerala stands out with the highest Human Development Index in India, reflecting significant achievements in health, education, and quality of life. However, this success story is just the beginning. There remains a pressing need to harness and channel the energy of its youth towards further inclusive and sustainable development. **Rising Communal and Right-Wing Ideologies** India, including Kerala, is witnessing a worrying rise in extreme communal and right-wing ideologies that threaten to divide societies along caste and religious lines. In such a climate, the role of grassroots movements, especially those led by young people, becomes crucial. These movements can act as bulwarks against divisiveness, promoting a culture of tolerance, unity, and shared purpose among diverse communities. **Need for Community Activities** There is a growing need for community-driven activities that bridge gaps and bring together young individuals from various backgrounds. These activities not only foster social cohesion but also encourage a sense of collective responsibility and citizenship among the youth. They are vital in countering the narratives of division and in nurturing a more inclusive society. **Addressing Patriarchy** Kerala, despite its advancements, is not immune to the deep-rooted patriarchal norms that often restrict the opportunities and freedoms of young women and girls. Engaging young people, particularly women, in leadership roles within these grassroots movements is essential. Such engagement not only empowers them but also serves as a catalyst for cultural change, challenging and gradually transforming patriarchal norms. **Role as Cultural Change Agents** Grassroots movements led by the youth can be pivotal cultural change agents. By advocating for mental health, environmental sustainability, and social cohesion, these movements can redefine cultural narratives. They can shift societal focus towards progressive values, equality, and collective well-being, which are essential in a state as diverse and dynamic as Kerala. **Conclusion** In conclusion, fostering and uniting grassroots movements in Kerala is not just a matter of social development but a political imperative. It is a strategic step towards countering divisive ideologies, challenging patriarchal norms, and building a more cohesive, inclusive, and progressive society. Empowering Kerala's youth in this endeavor is crucial for the state's continued leadership in human development and social harmony in India. # Change is not charity or poverty eradication alone, what Kerala wants now Some Thoughts, lanugae might be an issue, wrote in ആവേശം There are a number of wonderful initiatives that are run by youth which are bringing together the community. As Kerala and time changes, we may need new sorts of collectives and movements that could address the challenges of the present day. If we ask, which are the present day alternatives to workers movements or socialist movement or the recent Kudumbashree movement that are relatable to millennials and Gen Z. I got reminded by this talk I heard as part of the policy Yatra I was part of. It was in Mumbai and some senior persona was talking, one of the thing he pointed out stood with me for long. He started talking about the vidharbha and the sad state of farmer suicides, we all were thinking about it deeply and then he continued, “more number of suiside happens here in Mumbai, house wife’s and students are most of the ones we are loosing, if human life got the same value, we should be talking about those too, right !?" This question stuck with me, the underlaying realisation was, having things that some pay think pricy, might not directly propositional to emotional well being. When people says depression is a privilege, I tend not to agree to that. Property always shouldn’t be not having food. for me not having a safe space to went to, not feeling a reason to live, all are important things, that are needed to be addressed. For a fact we all know there are families that can spend lakhs or crores to marry off a girl but not a 100o rs for her to go and attend a workshop / session. Someone who have a number of cars at home are not allowed to go to another city in kerala to attend a hackathon. There are many times of poverties, not having access to not having freedom to move / do a job / join a course / be with someone you like. So in order to bring justice / move society forward, we are in need of number of small / micro movements. ### Examples ### Type of activities ### Organisation structure ### Social Media, Instagram and the possibilities ### Who are leading this movements ### Identifying as a movement / community # Building a change in your society ![](/files/-MUpZyaBHxt7IUUA_-Er) Taking ownership of problems, working every day to build a better environment for you and the people around is the way we became a better society I believe. I dont believe in change will magically happen, or time is the best healer thing. You need to take informed steps to make the change happen. # Volunteering സ്വപ്നം കാണുന്ന ആ സമത്വ സുന്ദര ഭാരതത്തിനായി പ്രവർത്തിക്കുന്നതിൽ പരം ആനന്ദമേക്കുന്നത് എന്താണ് ![](/files/-MUqOeyiywn8Q_v1Ztoh) > **Volunteering is the ultimate exercise in democracy**. You vote in elections once a year, but when you **volunteer**, you vote every day about the kind of community you want to live in # My Volunteering experiences # Hope {% file src="/files/N9CbpdD6VtTdz9kOqpaU" %} # Social Project Ideas There are a lot of changes I wish to see in the world, like everybody else I also have a very limited time to invest in everything I like. Since I can't work full time on everything I like to see, I could make it up by contributing to the mission by other means. Like networks, a little bit of financial aid and mentoring. What we do at TinkerHub is a change many wishes to see. That's why a lot of people contribute to the mission in many ways like financially, with their time or with their network. Doing good increasingly became easy with the emerge of social media, you could tell your story, about the change you wish to see, the work you do, and people from different walks of life, who are connected to the cause in different ways will come together to contribute and make it a reality. People might be really surprised to hear this perspective or won't believe it at all. That you could lead a life while doing the things you loved to do. That you dont need to go to a day job to realise the social change you wanted to see. Trust me, I'm doing that and so do you. We have a small network of people who do social impact ideas. All are maturing and figuring out their ways slowly. It might take time to be financially sustainable, but it's possible. You dont pay for schools in Kerala ( Private schools are really negligible in numbers [according to Kerala Niyamasabha](http://www.niyamasabha.org/codes/ginfo_1.htm) ), Health Care and a lot of things. How's that happening, we all pool together money as taxes, selected some of us to do the common facilities for all of us as MLAs & MPs. That's the way government actually work. It's possible in all scales, from local housing colonies to United Nations, People collaborate to meet the common goals. Finding people with a common goal is the only missing part. They will bring the rest of the resources to make a common dream a reality. {% content-ref url="/pages/-MaBmN3apl9JXVyLoUED" %} [Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls](/project-ideas/good-night-stories-for-rebel-girls) {% endcontent-ref %} {% content-ref url="/pages/-Md6B\_p6reL7FUKWGIrw" %} [Standing own feet 101 for Mallu girls](/project-ideas/standing-own-feet-101-for-mallu-girls) {% endcontent-ref %} # Interesting social side projects from instagram
The Offline Club is a global movement dedicated to helping people unplug from digital distractions and reconnect with real-life experiences. Through offline hangouts, reading parties, and digital detox retreats, they create cozy, phone-free spaces where individuals can relax, reflect, and engage in meaningful conversations. https://www.instagram.com/theoffline_club//files/bD836tgVegkogZSh9wNK
Meghna’s No Agenda Space has absolutely no agenda. 👇Here are a few things to keep in mind tho

- it’s a free of cost leisure space
- ❌men allowed - it’s only for women and queer people
- for more info go to Meghna’s Instagram @meghnachaudhury		https://www.instagram.com/reel/DGk0VHbvjsZ/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA%3D%3D/files/tE6xWiu5x4KW2ZWADA3c
What if there is a platfrom that lists and rates public toilets, this can be a great start

#Fun project		https://www.instagram.com/reel/DCT8HS0yspz/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==/files/iNSnEY7hQIzzFUOrfyom
DUNKED - I think every city needs their very own ‘Pavement Surgeon’. @ememem.flacking repairs gouged sidewalks and splintered facades in his home city of Lyon with beautiful bright mosaic constellations!https://www.instagram.com/ememem.flacking//files/b5jCLVKpNgZEGC4deaDl
# Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls ![Reble girls Book & Postcard I bought for nieces.](/files/-MaBt0336eQ7NpL0n3Ex) [Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls](https://www.rebelgirls.com/) is one of my all-time favourite social projects. It's a collection of stories of amazing women & their work in a good night story format. ## Why this matters We all learn from our surroundings, societies & people around us. When a young girl grows up in a patriarchal society, the images she might get about women might not be inspiring. If you dont see enough women doing leadership roles, taking ownership of lives & standing for themselves, the growing girls might believe it's okay, you cant dream big or it's a men's world, you dont have enough say in it. ## How it started A couple of years back, maybe I was still in college then, I saw a video randomly on Facebook. This was that video & you will pretty much understand the why's. {% embed url="" %} Spend 3 minutes 18 seconds on it, you won't regret it. ## How it works The book & the project is already a success. The core principles that made the success in my perspective are #### Relatability When 'people like us' do things, we tend to do believe that we too can do that. {% content-ref url="/pages/-MaBrLF2XkCZgkoZe66m" %} [Theory of relatability in real life](/philosophy/theory-of-relatability-in-real-life) {% endcontent-ref %} #### Goodnight stories format In the US & all, there is the custom of parents reading books to children just before they sleep, sitting next to the child in the bed. The child tends to be more interested in hearing stories in a good night stories format. 'like long long ago there was this girl who always wanted to fly....' #### Curation The team carefully curated the stories considering what we wanted the child to hear. ## I want to see Indian versions of this idea I made broader ideas, Check this out. {% content-ref url="/pages/-MaR23gcpELuteuRK7ff" %} [The Indian version plan](/project-ideas/good-night-stories-for-rebel-girls/the-indian-version-plan) {% endcontent-ref %} ## # The Indian version plan India is a very wast country with a wide diversity of cultures. There was & are a lot of amazing women who fought against all odds of patriarchy & created a place for them in our history. From former prime minister Indira Gandhi to KK Shailaja, Phoolan Devi to Shakuntala Devi, Kalpana Chawla to Tessy Thomas. There are thousands of other stories of women who have contributed to society & didn't get the kind of attention they deserved. ### Why an Indian version Referring back to relatability, It will be more relatable for us to hear about a Dalit IPS officer in Bihar than a black first lady in the USA. We need to celebrate local stories in local languages. ### The plan The broader plan is like this 1. Make a detailed plan & how we want to publish 2. Decide on the themes 3. Secure funding for the team 4. Hire / Get people who can get the stories 5. Translate to local languages (if we are doing that) 6. Make designs 7. Create marketing strategies 8. Print book ### My Involvement There are N number of projects I wish to see in the world. Even though I wanted to get involved, It's not practically possible to work on a lot of projects at the same time. So generally I tend to find people who wish to do that or I support people who already do that with whatever resource I can contribute. But in this project, I wish to be a co-founder or get involved actively. ### What I can bring to the table * This idea * Setting up a team * Some personal financial contributions * An experts panel/advisers * Connect with publishers * Designers * Networks to collect stories ### What I'm looking for right now A women cofounder, who understand inequalities like patriarchy & cast in India. Somebody who can relate to the struggles of Indian women & keen on making a difference. ### Future Scope This can make some good money if done for-profit company style. Could be a next level NGO / Social impact organisation if done as a non-profit. Either way, it's possible to make this a financially viable idea. # Standing own feet 101 for Mallu girls How to be financially and emotionally independent Many of the opportunities that the digital explosion gave us are the possibility to be financially independent with our skills. Being able to travel, get a flat in a city all are possible to far more people right now. This was not the case a decade before. However, patriarchy didn't grow/evolved to the rate our girls are being exposed to the possibilities and the independent women they are becoming. Having a peer group/knowledge space to understand how others have cracked the patriarchal issues at home and societies to lead a life of their own style would be really helpful. This could be a portal starting with when to get married or stories and experiences of people who choose not to marry. How to handle the situations around the marriage thing and the results. ### Some potential topics 1. Financial independence 101 2. Dealing with parents 3. Dealing with log kya kahenge within ourselvs 4. The imposter syndrome 5. Healthy & toxic relationships 6. Emotional stability 7. Creating a support system # The missing semester for life Things should have been taught in school but haven't. ### Topics 1. 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# Cities, Neigbourhoods that works for its people Being able to go for a morning walk, being able to cycle to your work is a privilege i wanted to have. There are countless movements across the globe working on that. I'm listing some of such resources around the prossibilty of walkable cities. #### Quint Documentory on why indian cities are not walkable {% embed url="" %} #### Walk Karo Community in Kochi that encourages group walks through public places {% embed url="" %} #### Benga walk / Trevour is so passionate about public transports, walkable cities {% embed url="" %} #### Mod Foundation, exploring urban living {% embed url="" %} # Literature # നഗര സന്ധ്യകൾ | City nights ![View from roof top bar during malesian visit](/files/-MUqKnn_ho6o5BvmfUur) When was the last time you were in a rooftop pub? Friday nights were still reserved for young and stupid Lights of those slow-moving traffic in metros Nice music playing and all those fairy lights Catching up with old friends and some new ones Trying to strike a conversation with single ones We had an opportunity to walk to the windows and talk about poems and life while looking at the city I really hope we will go back to those evenings someday, that you hold yourself to continue where we left off # ചുരുണ്ടുകൂടാനുള്ള ഇടങ്ങൾ | Cosy Spaces എന്താണ് ആൾക്കാർക്ക് വേണ്ടതെന്നു അറിയോ. എന്താണ് അവനവന്റെ ജീവിതത്തിൽ നടക്കുന്നതെന്ന് മനസിലാകാതെ വരാറില്ലേ, അപ്പൊ.\ സ്ഥിരം ആൾക്കാരിൽ നിന്നും സൊ കോള്ഡ് റൂട്ടീനിൽ നിന്നും ഒരു മാറ്റം വേണംന് തോന്നുമ്പോൾ. മനസ്സും തലയും ഒന്ന് ഫ്ലഷ് ചെയ്ത് റീസെറ്റ് ചെയ്യണംന്നു തോന്നുമ്പോൾ. എപ്പഴും ചെന്ന് കേറാന്ന് ഉറപ്പുള്ള സ്ഥലങ്ങൾ വേണം. ഡാ ഞാൻ അങ്ങോട്ട് വരാണെന്നു മെസ്സേജ് അയക്കുമ്പോൾ തിരിച്ചു മൈ ഗേറ്റ് ഗസ്റ്റ് കോഡ് അയച്ചു തരുന്ന ആൾകാർ കയറി ചെല്ലുമ്പോൾ ചിരിക്കുന്ന സെക്യൂരിറ്റി ചേട്ടൻ ഉള്ള ഫ്ലാറ്റ്, ഭാര്യയോ ഭർത്താവോ അല്ലാത്തവർക്കും പ്രവേശനമുള്ള ഇടങ്ങൾ വാതിൽ തുറക്കുമ്പോൾ ഓടി ചെന്ന് കെട്ടിപ്പിടിക്കാൻ ഒരാളുള്ള ആ ഇടത്തേക്ക് എത്താനാകുന്നു ഈ കാത്തിരിപ്പ് മുഴുവൻ. ഷവറിന്റെ ചുവട്ടിലെ ദീർഘ കുളി ഒരു അയഞ്ഞ കുർത്തിയും ഒരു പലാസോ പാന്റും ഇട്ടു വരുമ്പോൾ നിങ്ങൾക് ഇഷ്ടമുള്ള ചൂടുള്ള പാസ്ത ഉണ്ടാക്കി ആശാൻ ബാക്ക് to വർക്ക്‌ പോയി. മുംബയിലെ കൊൽക്കത്തയിലെ തെരുവുകളിലെ ആൾക്കൂട്ടങ്ങളിൽ കിട്ടുന്ന ഒരു privacy ഉണ്ട് ചുറ്റുമുള്ള ലോകത്തായിരിക്കുനേരവും നമ്മള്കുള്ള ഒരിടം. ബാൽക്കണിയിൽ ഇരുട്ടിലൂടെ ദൂരെ വാഹനങ്ങൾ നീങ്ങുന്നത് നോക്കി നിൽകുമ്പോൾ കിട്ടുന്നതും അതാണ്‌. ഒരു ഗ്ലാസ്‌ വൈനും പിടിച്ചു ബാൽക്കണിയിൽ പോയി നിക്കുമ്പോൾ അടുത്ത് വന്നു നനവ് മാറാത്ത തല തോർത്തി തരുന്ന ഒരാൾ. പ്രായം കൂടും തോറും മുടീടെ നീളവും കൊറഞ്ഞു വന്നതെന്താവാം, ആണുങ്ങൾക്ക് വളരുന്ന താടി ബോധമാവുന്നപോലെ നമ്മൾ പെണ്ണുങ്ങൾക്ക്‌ കുറയുന്ന മുടിയായാണോ ബോധം, ആർക്കറിയാം തടിയനെ കെട്ടിപിടിക്കുമ്പോൾ മെല്ലെനെ എവിടുന്നോ ഒരു സമാധാനത്തിന്റെ പുതപ്പിൽ കയറിയ പോലെ ആണ്. കൊറച്ചു കഴിയുമ്പോൾ എന്റെ കണ്ണ് നിറഞ്ഞു വരും. എന്തിനാണെന്ന് എനിക്ക് തന്നെ അറിയില്ലെങ്കിലും അവൻ ഒന്നും ചോദിച്ചില്ലെങ്കിലും ഞാൻ ഒന്നും പറഞ്ഞില്ലെങ്കിലും ഗസ്റ്റ് ആയിട്ടും നമ്മൾ വന്നാൽ വല്യ റൂം കയ്യടക്കാൻ മാത്രം സ്വാതന്ത്രം ഉള്ള ഫ്ലാറ്റ്. വീട്ടുകാരൻ സോഫയിൽ കിടക്കേണ്ടി വരുന്നത് പോലത്തെ കുറ്റബോധങ്ങൾക്ക് കൂടി ഇന്ന് അവധിയാണ്. ഗുഡ് നൈറ്റ്‌ നൈറ്റ്‌ കിസ്സ് തന്നിട്ടും പോകാൻ വിടാതെ ഉറങ്ങി പോകുന്ന വരെ അടുത്തിരുത്തും മുടിയിൽ കൈകൊണ്ട് തൊടുമ്പോൾ പാതി ഉറക്കത്തിലും അച്ഛനെ, കുഞ്ഞു ഫ്രോക്കിട്ടു നടന്നതൊക്കെ അങ്ങനെ സന്തോഷമുള്ള എന്തൊക്ക കണ്ടോണ്ട് ഉറങ്ങി പോണം രാവിലെ എണീക്കണ്ടാത്ത മതിയാകും വരെ പുതച്ച് കിടക്കാവുന്ന നമ്മിൽ അർപ്പിതമായ കടമകൾ ഒന്നും ഇല്ലാത്ത ആരോടും ഒന്നിനോടും ഒരു ഉത്തരവാദിത്തവുമില്ലാത്ത ഒരു അലസത ദിനം. എല്ലാവർക്കും കാമുകനോ രഹസ്യകാരനോ ആയിട്ടോ അല്ലാതെയോ ആത്മാവിനു ഒരു സ്വസ്ഥതക്കാരൻ വേണം നമ്മളാരാണ് മറന്നു പോകുന്ന കാലത്ത് അടുത്ത് ചെന്ന് കെട്ടിപിടിക്കാനും മടിയിൽ കിടന്നു സുരക്ഷിതമായിട്ട് ഉറങ്ങാനും ജഡ്ജ് ചെയ്യാത്ത ഒരിടം. # When your favourite artist dies പ്രിയപ്പെട്ട കലാകാരൻ പിരിഞ്ഞു പോകുമ്പോൾ മുകുന്ദൻ മരിക്കുമ്പോൾ കൂടെ കൊണ്ടുപോകുന്നത് എന്റെ ക്ഷുഭിത യൗവനമായിരിക്കും ഡൽഹിയുടെ കൊൽക്കത്തയുടെ നഗരവീഥികളിലൂടെ അകക്കണ്ണാലെ കണ്ട കാഴ്ചകൾ MT പോകുമ്പോൾ ഞാനും വിമലയും കുമയൂൺ താഴ്വരയിൽ ഇനി എന്തെന്നറിയാതെ നിന്നുപോകും പുനത്തിലിന്റെ കൂടെ പോയത് എന്റെ ഏറ്റവും പ്രിയപ്പെട്ട കുട്ടിക്കാല ഓർമകളാണ് തറവാട്ടിൽ രാത്രി വലിയുപ്പ സ്മാരക ശിലകൾ വായിച്ചിട്ട് എനിക്കും ഉമ്മച്ചിക്കും കഥ പറഞ്ഞു തരുന്നത് nബഷീറും പദ്മരാജനും നമുക്ക് ഓർമ്മവെക്കും മുൻപേ കടന്നുപോയത് എത്ര നന്നായി ഇർഫാൻ പോയത് കേട്ടപ്പോൾ നഷ്ടപെട്ടത് സ്‌ക്രീനിൽ കാണാറുള്ള ഏറ്റവും സാമ്യത തോന്നിയ ഒരാളായിരുന്നു\\ മനസ്സുകൊണ്ട് നമ്മൾ ജീവിച്ച നൂറു ജീവിതങ്ങളിൽ പലതും ഇടക്ക് മുറിഞ്ഞുപോകുന്ന പോലെ പ്രിയപ്പെട്ട കലാകാരൻ മരിക്കുമ്പോൾ നമ്മളിലെ ഒരു ഭാഗം തന്നെയല്ലേ കൊഴിഞ്ഞുപോകുന്നത് \#RIP Irfan, you will be missed. # Curl up to someone ചുരുണ്ടുകൂടാനുള്ള ഇടങ്ങൾ **എന്താണ് ആൾക്കാർക്ക് വേണ്ടതെന്നു അറിയോ. എന്താണ് അവനവന്റെ ജീവിതത്തിൽ നടക്കുന്നതെന്ന് മനസിലാകാതെ വരാറില്ലേ, അപ്പൊ.** **സ്ഥിരം ആൾക്കാരിൽ നിന്നും സൊ കോള്ഡ് റൂട്ടീനിൽ നിന്നും ഒരു മാറ്റം വേണംന് തോന്നുമ്പോൾ.** **മനസ്സും തലയും ഒന്ന് ഫ്ലഷ് ചെയ്ത് റീസെറ്റ് ചെയ്യണംന്നു തോന്നുമ്പോൾ.** **എപ്പഴും ചെന്ന് കേറാന്ന് ഉറപ്പുള്ള സ്ഥലങ്ങൾ വേണം.** **ഡാ ഞാൻ അങ്ങോട്ട് വരാണെന്നു മെസ്സേജ് അയക്കുമ്പോൾ തിരിച്ചു മൈ ഗേറ്റ് ഗസ്റ്റ് കോഡ് അയച്ചു തരുന്ന ആൾകാർ** **കയറി ചെല്ലുമ്പോൾ ചിരിക്കുന്ന സെക്യൂരിറ്റി ചേട്ടൻ ഉള്ള ഫ്ലാറ്റ്, ഭാര്യയോ ഭർത്താവോ അല്ലാത്തവർക്കും പ്രവേശനമുള്ള ഇടങ്ങൾ** **വാതിൽ തുറക്കുമ്പോൾ ഓടി ചെന്ന് കെട്ടിപ്പിടിക്കാൻ ഒരാളുള്ള ആ ഇടത്തേക്ക് എത്താനാകുന്നു ഈ കാത്തിരിപ്പ് മുഴുവൻ.** **ഷവറിന്റെ ചുവട്ടിലെ ദീർഘ കുളി ഒരു അയഞ്ഞ കുർത്തിയും ഒരു പലാസോ പാന്റും ഇട്ടു വരുമ്പോൾ നിങ്ങൾക് ഇഷ്ടമുള്ള ചൂടുള്ള പാസ്ത ഉണ്ടാക്കി ആശാൻ ബാക്ക് to വർക്ക്‌ പോയി.** **മുംബയിലെ കൊൽക്കത്തയിലെ തെരുവുകളിലെ ആൾക്കൂട്ടങ്ങളിൽ കിട്ടുന്ന ഒരു privacy ഉണ്ട് ചുറ്റുമുള്ള ലോകത്തായിരിക്കുനേരവും നമ്മള്കുള്ള ഒരിടം. ബാൽക്കണിയിൽ ഇരുട്ടിലൂടെ ദൂരെ വാഹനങ്ങൾ നീങ്ങുന്നത് നോക്കി നിൽകുമ്പോൾ കിട്ടുന്നതും അതാണ്‌.** **ഒരു ഗ്ലാസ്‌ വൈനും പിടിച്ചു ബാൽക്കണിയിൽ പോയി നിക്കുമ്പോൾ അടുത്ത് വന്നു നനവ് മാറാത്ത തല തോർത്തി തരുന്ന ഒരാൾ. പ്രായം കൂടും തോറും മുടീടെ നീളവും കൊറഞ്ഞു വന്നതെന്താവാം, ആണുങ്ങൾക്ക് വളരുന്ന താടി ബോധമാവുന്നപോലെ നമ്മൾ പെണ്ണുങ്ങൾക്ക്‌ കുറയുന്ന മുടിയായാണോ ബോധം, ആർക്കറിയാം** **തടിയനെ കെട്ടിപിടിക്കുമ്പോൾ മെല്ലെനെ എവിടുന്നോ ഒരു സമാധാനത്തിന്റെ പുതപ്പിൽ കയറിയ പോലെ ആണ്.** **കൊറച്ചു കഴിയുമ്പോൾ എന്റെ കണ്ണ് നിറഞ്ഞു വരും. എന്തിനാണെന്ന് എനിക്ക് തന്നെ അറിയില്ലെങ്കിലും അവൻ ഒന്നും ചോദിച്ചില്ലെങ്കിലും ഞാൻ ഒന്നും പറഞ്ഞില്ലെങ്കിലും** **ഗസ്റ്റ് ആയിട്ടും നമ്മൾ വന്നാൽ വല്യ റൂം കയ്യടക്കാൻ മാത്രം സ്വാതന്ത്രം ഉള്ള ഫ്ലാറ്റ്. വീട്ടുകാരൻ സോഫയിൽ കിടക്കേണ്ടി വരുന്നത് പോലത്തെ കുറ്റബോധങ്ങൾക്ക് കൂടി ഇന്ന് അവധിയാണ്.** **ഗുഡ് നൈറ്റ്‌ നൈറ്റ്‌ കിസ്സ് തന്നിട്ടും പോകാൻ വിടാതെ ഉറങ്ങി പോകുന്ന വരെ അടുത്തിരുത്തും** **മുടിയിൽ കൈകൊണ്ട് തൊടുമ്പോൾ പാതി ഉറക്കത്തിലും അച്ഛനെ, കുഞ്ഞു ഫ്രോക്കിട്ടു നടന്നതൊക്കെ അങ്ങനെ സന്തോഷമുള്ള എന്തൊക്ക കണ്ടോണ്ട് ഉറങ്ങി പോണം** **രാവിലെ എണീക്കണ്ടാത്ത മതിയാകും വരെ പുതച്ച് കിടക്കാവുന്ന നമ്മിൽ അർപ്പിതമായ കടമകൾ ഒന്നും ഇല്ലാത്ത ആരോടും ഒന്നിനോടും ഒരു ഉത്തരവാദിത്തവുമില്ലാത്ത ഒരു അലസത ദിനം.** **എല്ലാവർക്കും കാമുകനോ രഹസ്യകാരനോ ആയിട്ടോ അല്ലാതെയോ ആത്മാവിനു ഒരു സ്വസ്ഥതക്കാരൻ വേണം** **നമ്മളാരാണ് മറന്നു പോകുന്ന കാലത്ത് അടുത്ത് ചെന്ന് കെട്ടിപിടിക്കാനും മടിയിൽ കിടന്നു സുരക്ഷിതമായിട്ട് ഉറങ്ങാനും ജഡ്ജ് ചെയ്യാത്ത ഒരിടം.**\ \
# Letter to T When I saw the results, the rank was not in top 10,000, even after repeating. I merely improved in a year, even with all the full time repeating classes and all. I don't know what to do. It was around 6 in the evening. I didn't even know what to feel back then. I just went to my room and slept. I slept for 14 hrs straight. It was my dream to join NIT. My tutors in the coaching center were convinced that I will get in, they even said that to my parents. It was practically hell for the next couple of months. Even though I had good ranks in CUSAT, it took forever to get in. That was a tough period. I had that guilt for not getting NIT for a long time. after a couple of years, I used to go and stay in NIT hostels with friends and build apps together. There was a lot of plus for being in Kochi. We had a startup village near, I started my startup eventually, met people, did maker party and started TinkerHub all while I was in college. My NIT friends when they started their startup, joined the incubator we build together in CUSAT. Since then I started realizing, all the toughest periods in my life ultimately turned around my life for the best. Every great thing I did back then, was a by-product of some not so happy situations. I know many communities made from breakups. I'm not saying it a good thing, but when you get out of something not meant for you, you will find something more interesting. Nothing in my life went as I planned, but every unexpected turn brought something entirely new to my life. Something made me curious and excited. I think life is all about falling in love with your journey, things might not go as planned, but its all about knowing to navigate the boat in the storm and of course, learning to enjoy every moment of it. **Dear dear T,**\ I hope you won't lose the faith in you, I hope you will find the strength in yourself. I know something good will come out soon, I don't know hows it looks like, but something I do know is, it will be something worth exploring and you gonna love that journey. # Letter to S I had sex with more women than I wanted to be But I do what to sleep with more women I wanted to sleep next to more Men I just want to sleep next to people I care I want to hug them before they go to sleep Often times I wanted to kiss the back of their necks I wanted to kiss the forehead of people I care I just want to make people safe and cared I wanted to tell people that they are loved For who they are, for whom they wanted to be There is a point beyond sex, Of course, I like having sex with people But always I value people for who they are I just wanted everyone around me to be free Free to do anything they wish to do without being judged I wanted to become a space where everyone feels safe I just wanted to be something that they were missing from their life ‌ {% hint style="info" %} I'm high tonight but S, I just wanted you to know, that you are deeply cared for and loved. For the person you were, you are and you wanted to be. you are loved from the core of my heart. Be peaceful as you were always. {% endhint %} # Letter to S i found in Instagram I wrote letter to S maybe 8 years back, saw something close enough last week
> [View this post on Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/p/DOdk9EsimkI/?utm_source=ig_embed\&utm_campaign=loading) > > [A post shared by കിളി പോയവൻ (@kili\_poyavann)](https://www.instagram.com/p/DOdk9EsimkI/?utm_source=ig_embed\&utm_campaign=loading) # Non transactional care അഥവാ വ്യവ്‌ഹാര രഹിത ഇഷ്ടങ്ങൾ നമ്മുടെ ജീവിതത്തത്തിൽ ( ഏറ്റവും കുറവ് പൊതു ജീവിതത്തിൽ ) യാതൊരു താല്പര്യവും ഇല്ലാത്ത കൊറച്ചു സുഹൃത്തുക്കളെ കണ്ടെത്തണം. അതായത് നമ്മൾ ഇപ്പൊ എന്ത് ജോലി ചെയ്യുന്നു എന്ത് സമ്പാദിക്കുന്നു ആരുടെ കൂടെ കിടക്കുന്നു ഇത്യാതി ഉപരിപ്ലവമായ നിത്യജീവിത സംബന്ധിയായ വ്യവഹാരങ്ങളിൽ തീർത്തും നിർവികാരത തീർക്കാൻ കഴിയുന്ന തരത്തിലുള്ള ആളുകൾ. പ്രധാന ഉദ്ദേശം ജഡ്‌ജ്‌മെന്റൽ അല്ലാതെ അന്തം വിട്ടു സംസാരിക്കാനുള്ള ഒരു അവസ്ഥ ഉണ്ടാകുക എന്നതാണ്. Non transactional സ്നേഹങ്ങൾ എന്ന് ചുരുക്കി പറയാം. പിന്നെ ഈ rat race ഇന്റെ നടുവിൽ ഇത് ഒരൊറ്റ ജീവിതമാണെന്നും പണ്ട് പറഞ്ഞ ജീവിത തത്വങ്ങൾ കൊറച്ചൊക്കെ പ്രായോഗികമാക്കാം എന്നൊക്കെ ഒരു ക്ലാരിറ്റി കിട്ടാൻ ഇങ്ങനത്തെ കഥ ഇല്ലാത്ത സംഭാഷങ്ങൾക്ക് ഗുണപ്പെടും.
# The kind of days we conquer the world | Post Event Depressions ലോകം കീഴടക്കിയ വൈകുന്നേരങ്ങളെ പറ്റി നിങ്ങൾ ഓർത്തിട്ടുണ്ടോ That you have done what you thought you never can അഭിനന്ദനങ്ങളുടെ ഇടയിൽ നിന്നും മുറിയിലേക്ക് ഉള്ള മടങ്ങി വരവുകളെ എണ്ണമറ്റ ദിനങ്ങളുടെ അവസാനത്തിലുള സുദീർഘമായ കുളിയ്ക്കും ഉറക്കത്തിനും ശേഷം പതിവുണ്ടായിട്ടും പഞ്ചസാര ഒന്നും ഇടാതെ ഒരു കട്ടൻ ചായയും കുടിച്ചോണ്ട് ബാൽക്കണിയിലെ ആ നില്പില്ലെ ആകാശം ചുവപ്പു മാറി കറുപ്പണിയാൻ നിക്കണ ആ സമയം, ആ സമയത്തെ പറ്റിയാണ് എനിക്ക് നിങ്ങളോട് സംസാരിക്കാൻ ഉള്ളത് ലോകം കീഴടക്കിയ വൈകുന്നേരത്തെ ഏകാന്തത അതിനെ നിങ്ങൾ എങ്ങനെയാണ് തരണം ചെയ്‌യാറെന്നു ഇനി ഒന്നും ചെയ്യാൻ ഇല്ലായ്മയെ, ദിവസങ്ങളിടെ ഓട്ടത്തിൽ വരണ്ടുപോയ നിങ്ങളിലെ നിങ്ങളെ ലോകം കീഴടക്കിയ വൈകുന്നേരങ്ങളിലെ ഏകാന്തത പോലെ നിർവികാരമായ സന്ധ്യകൾ. എനിക്ക് തോന്നുന്നു നമ്മളൊക്കെ ഓരോ പട്ടികുട്ടികളെ വളർത്തണം Hachiko നെ പോലത്തെ, അതിനെങ്ങനാ കൂടെ ഉള്ള ഒരു പട്ടിക്കും പട്ടി കുട്ടിനെ വളർത്താൻ പോയിട്ട് ഓമനിക്കാൻ തന്നെ അറീലാ. ഇതോണ്ടൊക്കെയാണ് ഞാൻ പറയാറ് നിങ്ങളീ ലോകം കീഴടക്കാൻ ഒന്നും പോകണ്ടാന്നു ഏതേലും ഒരു കമ്പനീൽ ആരേലും പറയണത് കേട്ട് എന്തേലും ഒക്കെ ചെയ്തു വൈകുന്നേരമാക്കിക്കോ ലോകം നന്നാക്കൽ ഒക്കെ എടങ്ങാറാണ് ബ്രോ @meharmp # Magic You know what magic is, magic is being able to touch someone's soul. Defusing into their soul, just like the mist passing through us, we share a moment in our life times, we feel the presence and like the way it came, it slowly fades away. But I'm glad that we had this moment together, this shared feelings, this mist that just in it. There would be a lot of beautiful sunsets and starry nights awaits in eatch others life, mostly with someone else. But when I look back / see something that reminds you, I feel this chillness of the mist that we shared. # Gazals # Rafta rafta {% embed url="" %} 🎸🎻 *ഗസൽ / ഗീത് മാല* 🎤🎧 *ഗാനം 173* *\*രഫ്ത രഫ്ത* ആലാപനം: *മെഹ്ദി ഹസൻ* വരികൾ: *തസ്ലിം ഫാസ്ലി* *Rafta rafta woh meri hasti ka saamaan ho gaye,* *\*Pehlay jaan, phir jaan-e-jaan, phir jaan-e-jaana ho gaye* നിഗൂഢവും അനുക്രമവുമായി (പടിപടിയായി ) അവളെന്റെ ജീവിതത്തിന്റെ (സ്വത്വത്തിന്റെ ) ഭാഗമായിത്തീർന്നു. ആദ്യം ജീവനായി, പിന്നെ ജീവന്റെ ജീവനായി, പിന്നീടെന്റെ ഏറ്റവും പ്രിയപ്പെട്ടതായി അവൾ മാറി *Din-b-din badthi gayii is husn ki raaniyaan*. *\*Pehlay Gul, phir gul-badan, phir gul-badamaan ho gaye* ദിനംപ്രതി അവളുടെ സൗന്ദര്യകാന്തി വർധിച്ചു കൊണ്ടേയിരിക്കുന്നു; ആദ്യം ഒരു പൂവിതളായി, പിന്നെ പനിനീർ പൂവായി, പിന്നെ ഒരു പൂന്തോട്ടമായവൾ മാറി *Aap to nazdeek say nazdeek-tar aatay gaye* *\*Pehlay dil, phir dilruba, phir dil kay mehmaan ho gaye* നീ എന്നോട് അടുത്തു കൊണ്ടേയിരിക്കുന്നു. ആദ്യം ഹൃദയമായി, പിന്നെ എന്റെ ഓമനയായി, പിന്നെ ഹൃദത്തിനൊരു വിശിഷ്ടാതിഥിയായി *Pyar jab had se badha saare taqalluf mit gaye* *\*Aap se phir tum huye phir tu ka unwaan hogaye* പ്രണയം അതിന്റെ എല്ലാ അതിരുകളും കീഴടക്കിക്കഴിയവെ എല്ലാ ഔപചാരികതകളും മായ്ക്കപ്പെട്ടു; താങ്കൾ നിങ്ങളെന്നായി പിന്നെ നീയെന്ന വിളിയായി മാറി NB : വരികളിൽ കോപ്പിയടി ആരോപിക്കപ്പെട്ടിട്ടുണ്ട്. മെഹ്ദി സാബ് തസ്ലിം ഫാസ്ലിയുടെ ഈ വരികളാണ് പാടിയിരിക്കുന്നത് 🎼🎼 *ഷബീർ രാരങ്ങോത്ത്* 🎻🎸 # Philosophy # Thousand true Fans Thousand true fans is a theory, that summarised as - you only need a thousand true fans to be sustainable / successful. This theory comes from US & Art background, but it could be applicable elsewhere as well. In US , if you can find 1000 people who are your true fans, and willing to spend $100 for your art / creation every year, you could make $100,000 which is good enought to have a decent living. In this wast world of 7 Billion people, there shoud be a thousand people who believes in the niche you are in, and if you can find them and produce something they feel valuable, you could do anything. In short you don't need millions of followers or anything to do what you love to do and suistain. Read more [here](https://kk.org/thetechnium/1000-true-fans/) > the "1000 True Fans" theory is a concept popularized by Kevin Kelly, co-founder of Wired magazine. The theory posits that to be a successful creator, artist, or entrepreneur, you don't need millions of customers, fans, or followers. Instead, you need only 1000 "true" fans who are so dedicated that they will buy anything you produce. > > Chat GPT Summary {% content-ref url="/pages/0ssnhwKKRuIZp2sHNcDY" %} [Projects that I'm true fan of](/philosophy/thousand-true-fans/projects-that-im-true-fan-of) {% endcontent-ref %} # Thousand true fans in Indian context How much you need to live in India. I belive as an impact leader / artist if you can have 1 Lakh a month, in a non metro is good enought to have a decent living. So if you have 1000 people contributing ₹1000 every month, you could make a lakh a month. These costs are calulated on assuming 1. Single founder 2. No other production costs than this person time. If you have more people in the team, you need a 1000 fans for thme as well to sustain. # Projects that I'm true fan of This is a growing list of projects that I wanted to support. [Read the indian context pricing](/philosophy/thousand-true-fans/thousand-true-fans-in-indian-context) i calculated. Simple words, these are projects I'll be happy to put a ₹1000 everymonth till they stops producing / doing what they are doing.
ProjectCategoryWhat makes it specialLinkReasoningLink
Ababeel Media HouseMusicThey makes great music, captures mappila culture. Lyruics, meaning and music are so deep and soothing.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WMEQ1sTUdYc
Mangosteen ClubMusicSimplest malayalam lyrics, reel size songs, but feels so homehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1xXiYhe6D_g&list=RDEMEB2kxulEhzQ7K777k1Y8zQ&start_radio=1&rv=pUK28JYZ3mM
Jashn-e-RekhtaCultureJashn-e-Rekhta is the celebration of urudu language. Three day festival happens at delhi every decemeber. I love the love in that air, people, and the depth of litterature. https://jashnerekhta.org
Citizen Digital FoundationSocial ImpactBecouse I know nidhi and the need for responsible innovation or ethics in AIhttps://citizendigitalfoundation.org
i LabSocial ImpactBecouse i know nasmina, Nasef and the all folks who put efforts for a long term goalhttp://ilabindia.org
The wireCivil SocietyBecouse someone need to tell the truthhttps://thewire.in
Interent Freedom FoundationCivil SocietyBecouse someon need to question laws and policies https://internetfreedom.in
{% content-ref url="/pages/ATGwYSCH6WJFIryxzWG4" %} [Thousand true Fans](/philosophy/thousand-true-fans) {% endcontent-ref %} # Theory of relatability in real life Relatability is something core to my principles around social change. It's not like oppressed / underprivileged people want to improve their quality of life, but when they dont have seen enough people like them doing that, it might be hard for them to believe in themselves, that it's possible to change the life for the better. Many considered themselves as victims of life, mostly because they dont have that confidence to make a difference in their life, that they are not in control of it. How to change that or how it changes, well in my theory seeing people of their kind ( having all the issues they are facing ) still figured out a way to make life in control and succeed in that. At TinkerHub, we make sure that our പിള്ളേർസ് ( learners ) see enough of their sort of people, from similar backgrounds, learned something and succeeded in life. # Possibilities മാധവികുട്ടി ഒരിക്കൽ പറഞ്ഞതായിട്ട് കേട്ടിരുന്നു, നാഥാ എന്നിൽ നിന്നും ഭക്ഷണത്തെ മാറ്റിയാലും വിശപ്പിന്നെ മാറ്റാരുതേ എന്ന്. പുള്ളിക്കാരി അത് പ്രേമം around പറഞ്ഞതാവും. Something I wish to stay with me for longer is the ability to dream about possibilities 😇 # Start with Why {% embed url="" %} Start with why is a popular Ted talk & a Book by Simon Sinek. Even though there are different perspectives about the specific topic, The idea of start with why really helped me to get thought clarity, especially during early days of my career. Before doing anything, especially in work I think why am I doing this. What is my actual goal, what am I trying to achieve here. This asking me why really helped in getting clarity. Many of the times we may get lost in the process of doing things and ultimately forgot why we started to do this whole activity in the first time. > "You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw *stones* at *every dog* that barks." Winston Churchill. I believe best way to get clarity is to remove / avoid as many options as possible. So asking why before doing thing will help you to avoid doing things that wont matters. # Science progresses one funeral at a time Planck's principle ![](/files/-MVSLZScBbeIuD4ZbN3H) > “A new scientific truth does not triumph by convincing its opponents and making them see the light, but rather because its opponents eventually die, and a new generation grows up that is familiar with it.” Max Planck Read more at [Wikipedia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Planck%27s_principle) This principle is an interesting one. Waiting for everyone to accept who you are / what you believe wont help. Some may change after seeing what you have done, some dont accept your ideas at all, but thats okay. Stop waiting for the magic to happen. Its your life and do what you feels right, as long as it wont take away anyone else's fundamental rights. # God ### Story So think about a place—a hilly place—like Munnar or Darjeeling or somewhere like that. Picture an old British-era house with stone walls and everything. I stay there. I’m young, maybe 22 or 23. I go to college from there and live with my grandfather. He’s probably in his late 70s, with a white beard and all. I go to college, we live together, and he takes care of the plants and everything. We don’t talk much, but when I need to ask something—like for advice—he’s there. Otherwise, he doesn’t get involved in my day-to-day life.\ To me, that is the picture of God. ### Theory All the Semitic religions have this idea of a Judgment Day—where after death, everyone who ever lived on earth rises again from their tombs. Then, in a vast open ground, their right-doing and wrong-doing are judged. Based on that, they go to heaven or hell. I think this is common across all Semitic religions. I’ve always found the idea of Judgment Day interesting. Because so many people have wronged humanity in big ways—and many of them get to die peacefully. That makes you question the very idea of justice, right? I always think about that. Long story short, my thought is: what if there is a Judgment Day—and God is my grandfather? He might not ask me anything directly, but maybe he’d just say,\ *“All those people around you who were in pain, who were suffering—they were my children too. I thought you might take care of them.”* I’ve always felt like I had a lot of privileges. And when God says that, would I be able to look him in the eyes and say, *“I tried my best?”*\ That’s my litmus test. I always think—would I have the courage to look into his eyes?\ I know he won’t judge me. He won’t say anything.\ But did I disappoint him? That’s my story of God.\ My theory of God. # Thoughts # Dreaming മാധവികുട്ടി ഒരിക്കൽ പറഞ്ഞതായിട്ട് കേട്ടിരുന്നു, നാഥാ എന്നിൽ നിന്നും ഭക്ഷണത്തെ മാറ്റിയാലും വിശപ്പിന്നെ മാറ്റാരുതേ എന്ന്. പുള്ളിക്കാരി അത് പ്രേമം around പറഞ്ഞതാവും. Something I wish to stay with me for longer is the ability to dream about possibilities 😇 # Hope ജീവിതം എന്നത് ഒരു പ്രതീക്ഷ ആണെന്ന് തോനുന്നു. That we will be good, people around will be good. Keep close those people who make you hopeful ☺️ # Plan B (at times ) Having a plan B is jeopardizing your plan A. You dont belive in plan A to the point that you will some how make it happen. # Thought Clarity Thought clarity is the rarest thing I found in people. I really admire those who have it. There are N ways to live a life, there is no right or wrong, but knowing that we choose a specific path is really important. # Fate I reached a point in life that I dont belive in fate. It could be totatlly a privilage to be like that. I know I choosed all the steps in my life, or choosed how to respond to things that happended to me. I dont belive in some random magic that will happen to my life and it will change for ever. I'm not sure about what will happen to me tomorrow, or what exactly I will be doing in my life, but something I know is, despite of what happens, I will find a way to navigate. That comes from the thought clarity. {% content-ref url="/pages/-MWNRdzLq4SyixLo9lBp" %} [Thought Clarity](/thoughts/thought-clarity) {% endcontent-ref %} # Time is a healer thing Time is the best healer is a popular thought eveyone quote. I dont believe in change will magically happens, or time is the best healer thing. You need to take informed steps to make the change happen. In personal life context, wounds wont automatically heal. You might forget its there untill there is a trigger happens, or it became so normal that you wont recongize it anymore. I wish everyone should be able to do remedial actions as soon as something bad has happened. When you get emotionally down with something, try to see a counsillor as soon as you can - or take any help, dont live in pain for ever to the point it changes who you permenantly to live with that pain. # Gratitude If I want to keep on word with me, let it be gratitude. Whenever I see something good in someone, a nice movie I feel grateful for everything I had. It feels like I'm responsible for all the privileges I'm having. That I should take care of people who are less fortunate than I'm. Before that, I feel gratified that I get an opportunity to see all these good things happening to me, that I'm appreciating those, that I got an eye to see all those. I'm grateful to people who helped me in finding gratitude. # Emotions Cloud Most of the times people feel feelings as a set of emotions merged in different compositions. It will take a lot of efforts/thoughts/reading & conversation with people to start understanding and separating different emotions from the cloud. ‌ Once we are having that clarity on which all emotions are playing in making the current feelings, it's easy to work on each one of them as separate entities and make peace with each one of them. ‌ It took me a while to have the clarity / or the skills to see different emotions as separate ones and act on that rather than feeling like a cloud of emotions and react # Prioritising Peace Nothing in this world is more important than your samadhanam (peace). Cut off people, resign from a toxic workplace, move out from places that take away your peace. ‌ Something I will fight till my end will be for my peace, that's my way of prioritizing myself. # A Note on Responsibility, Words, and Reflection Through my work, friendships, and the many spaces I’ve been part of, I’ve interacted with thousands of people over the years. That’s been one of the most meaningful parts of my life. But I also recognize that in a few of those interactions—especially with women—I may have caused discomfort through my words or presence, even if unintentionally. I can think of at least three instances where someone might have felt I had bad or confusing intentions. To be clear: these were never incidents of physical violation. I’ve never touched or hugged anyone without clear or implicit consent. These moments I’m reflecting on were not rooted in desire or any expectation—often I was trying to be honest, open, or simply supportive—but I now realize they may have landed differently than intended. Even without any intent to harm, I believe that how someone experiences a moment matters. If any of my words or actions made someone feel unsafe, that’s mine to hold. I think about this more often than people might guess. If I had the ability to undo that discomfort, I would. I’m not sharing this to seek validation or forgiveness—but to take responsibility, however small, for the emotional weight that words can carry. If you were ever on the receiving end of that weight from me, I’m sorry. —Mehar # The Cost of Being Vulnerable I’ve always believed in being honest. With myself. With others. I don’t try to act differently for work, for the public, or for what people expect a “leader” to be. I’ve never liked the idea of filtering parts of me to fit into someone else’s version of what’s appropriate. But that openness—especially in the Indian context—comes at a cost. Me and my partner have been in therapy for over a year now, trying to navigate the complexities of intimacy in our marriage. It’s been difficult, layered, emotionally charged. And for a long time, this part of my life has felt like a quiet ache I didn’t know how to name out loud. Not long ago, someone asked me in a conversation: “If a genie granted you a wish today, what would you ask for?” I said, “Good sex.” Not to provoke. Not directed at them. Just the honest answer to a raw question. That’s what was weighing on me at the time. But I realized later that being that open, that quickly, with someone I barely knew, was a mistake. They didn’t ask for that vulnerability. They didn’t owe me the space to hold it. That moment has stayed with me. I didn’t mean harm, but I can imagine it may have felt unsafe. And that’s mine to carry. People—especially those who work for you, or look up to you—can feel caught off guard by this kind of honesty. It blurs lines. And even if your intentions are clear in your mind, the experience on the other side may be entirely different. If they feel discomfort or unease, it’s not their fault for feeling it. It’s my responsibility to acknowledge it. I’ve been told often: *Don’t be vulnerable. It makes people uncomfortable.* I’ve mostly heard this from good people—fellow founders, friends in the impact space—who’ve poured their lives and savings into trying to make the world better. But when I bring my mess to the surface, when I ask real, hard, unresolved questions, it sometimes upsets them. Maybe it confronts something they haven’t resolved in themselves. Maybe they just don’t know how to help. And that’s okay.
Still, I hold onto this belief: the world should be a place where people can be vulnerable and still feel safe. Where we can talk about things that hurt without being framed. Where honesty doesn’t always get you punished. Where emotional truth isn’t seen as weakness or confusion.
I may misstep. I may overshare. I may misread the readiness of a space. But I don’t want to stop being real. This post is me trying to take responsibility for the things I’ve said that might have caused discomfort—and also trying to stay true to the kind of world I want to help build. —Mehar # Books Books that shaped my thoughts 1. Manju by MT : Emotions,love 2. Who will cry when you die : positivity in little things 3. I too had a dream : Leaders are made not born 4. Nooru simhaasanagal : Justice & merit understanding privileges
# Inspiration Different people pursue inspiration in very different modes. By looking at the inspiration we could understand a lot about the person, and predict the actions. Listing down some of them and why it's inspiring me. ### Inspiring Projects * [Menstrupedia](https://www.menstrupedia.com) * [Goodnight stories for rebel girls](https://www.rebelgirls.com) * Cooperatives ### Inspiring Humans * Varghese Kurian * Rameshan Paleri # Political # Sarfaroshi ki Tamanna The song Sarfaroshi ki Tamanna is a celebrated during Indian civil movements. I heard about from CAA/NRC protest times. {% embed url="" %} മഹത്തായ ത്യാഗത്തിന്റെ അഭിനിവേശമാണ് ഇപ്പൊ നമ്മുടെ ഹൃദയങ്ങളിൽ എതിരാളികളുടെ കൈകൾക്ക് എത്ര കരുത്തുണ്ടെന്നു നമുക്ക് കാണാം ആകാശമേ, സമയമാകുമ്പോൾ ഞാൻ എല്ലാം പറയാം എന്റെ ഹൃദയത്തിലുള്ളതിനെ പറ്റി ഇപ്പൊ എന്ത് പറയാൻ # Caste ## Caste is something that defines Indian society. It's worse than the colour in the United States. The only single injustice I can think about bigger than caste in scale is gender. Even though I live in India, I haven't experienced anything personally, because 1. I'm from Kerala, one of the most forward-thinking & developed society in India. 2. I born in a Muslim family, there is no caste inside Islam‌ \ Why makes caste so interesting for me ------------------------------------- It's the most subtle injustice for most of my peer group & the biggest factor that defines why India like this even after 70 years of freedom. ‌ Sometimes it's so hard for me to explain these injustices to people, I will be wondering it's so in and around you, why can't you just see that. ‌ Then I learned about privileges. Now each day, I'm reminded about my privileges. ## Resources to learn about Caste Curating some of the resources that helped me to understand caste, thought might be helpful for some people who care to learn. # Resources to learn about Caste ## A logical way of explining cast to newbies {% embed url="" %} ## A Facebook page dedicated to explaining the reservation You could find a set of great resources in this [Facebook page](https://www.facebook.com/reservationexplained/videos/?ref=page_internal) # Nooru Simhasangal Book Nooru Simhasangal ( A hundred thrones )by Jayamohan is one of the books that helped me to grow as a person. It helped me to see things that were around me and never saw before because of my privileges. ‌ After reading this I could see things are so subtle and might not notice if we are from a privileged background. ![](/files/-Ma9StjietRCOhge54MZ) # Understanding Kerala State Finance {% embed url="" %} Interesting discussion on how state budgets works. {% endembed %} # Aruna Roy on people's movement {% embed url="" %} # Community # Rethinking Mementos & Gifts Visiting colleges, taking sessions is part of my full-time job ever after my college days. Earlier as a fellow of @Kerala startup mission, then as project coordinator and now as @TinkerHub. I can say that I don't have enough place on my showcase in my home to put all the mementoes I have received. I'm not a great fan of mementoes mainly, it took a lot of places like this, normally it will be heavy and fragile and thirdly there is nothing useful about it that your mom can show the new ones to others. It was @yadu started giving Plants as mementoes from the @headstart days. Now it became a culture. Giving plants and books are the best things you can give and receive as mementoes. I still think about the talk at MEC because watering this small guy is part of my morning routine. This book is something I received last weekend from TKM. I hope more people will move from expensive mementoes that is only useful to boost our egos to something like these Which will get us connected to nature and make us more connected. ![Kitchen is where we store mementos in flat](/files/-MUqfgh-Fqa88N17oHm_) # Work I don't work work, I explore things that are interesting to me, I do things that matter to me. {% embed url="" %} # Memes | ചളികൾ & Fun 1. അങ്ങനെ എന്തേലും പറഞ്ഞു മഹാൻ ആയതല്ല ഞാൻ, ഞാൻ പറഞ്ഞതൊക്കെയും quotes ആയിരുന്നു 🤭 2. What was your favourite social studies chapter? Mine was the one mallu analyst shared and never taught in the school syllabus. 3. When life makes you old, be a Kamala Haasan with the salt and pepper beard - Nadasha # Book Covers 1. Paisakkarde prashnangal aarodu parayaan 2. The budhimuts of India 3. The mother India 4. Adhikaara nirvikaratha 5. How to handle success in pinchu praayam 6. GG pidikkatha vallikal 7. babyude apadha sanjaarangal 8. Anubhavangal paavhalikal 9. Mansplinaing like UC plaining 10. Paavathungalde kashtapadukal aaru kelkkan 11. Vazhimuttalukalum mattuchila muttalukalum 12. Sathaanu sathar kakka, muthaanu muneer kaakka # Tech Product Ideas Product that I needed. I think there will be more people who has similar needs. I have seen a lot of great teams got lost by solving a problem that not exists. Finding a good problem that people find so painful, happy to pay for a solution is the key to building a great product. When you try to find a problem in some ways so that you could make a solution and sell it off, most of the time it won't work. When you start working/doing things, you will find a lot of pain points. There is a possibility of many more people across the world might be facing the same issues. A small plugin, an app, a web app or a few lines of the script could do a lot of work. There are a lot of developers who makes $1000s every week by selling small plugins and tools that save a lot of time and efforts. ### Instagram Playlist Tool There are a number of people who just publish their songs in instagram as reels. Many of them don't publish to youtube or anywhere else. What if there is a instagram player that can help you create playlist using reels. ### Playlist Sync Tool I have different playlists in different music apps. Its hard to find each songs in every app. So what if there is a tool that can sync across many music apps, adding songs to similar playlists. ### Common Meeting location finder For many friends to gather, based on people's location suggest best meeting place for all the people. ### Link sharing tool A tool that can make a collection of links, like a link tree, and share that list with people. The lists can be shared with a selected set of people only, not public.‌ ### Mac Android Clipboard sharing tool I wish to see a free/minimal cost tool to do this. Right now I open telegram in phone and mac to share text between devices ### A career check Most of the times, people find it hard to believe in themself that they have enough skills or done enough things to be ready to apply for a job. A checklist that they can refer to to make basics ready would be helpful. Update: Found this interesting tool made by a MEC Alumni. [Confused](https://reallyconfused.co/) ### Android TV Dashboard Tool We have an android TV in a flat. I needed that to be used for work needs. An android TV app that could load a specific webpage will do the work. If there is an option to have a list of pages and manage that from the backend it will be cool. I could use the big screen to have a look at the dashboards I have made. Update Check out build by Abid's team this week ### WhatsApp Chat Viewer When you back up / export a chat to mail from WhatsApp, it will be a text file. When you try to open it, it will look like a log file and will be hard to read. It will be great if there is a tool, that could read this file and arrange the conversation in the way we see inside WhatsApp , so that we can read it easily like a conversation. ### Discord Meeting scheduler bot A bot that will schedule a meeting from discord chats & then sent event invitations to all people who agreed. ## Get paid / Let's collaborate If you are keen on building any of these, I could find resources/funding for you. If you want to build it together, I'm open to becoming a co-founder for any of this project. Let's do this together, let me know. # Ideas without description Google meet team photo plugin Car owner information saving tool YouTube selected part loop Voucher Generator Phone pay statement generator Malayalam Calligraphy Generator Event Schedule maker Tool / Sheet Plugin Series progress bar \[ how long have we completed in a long series] Website spell checker with css modifications A whatsapp based expense manager Beautify screenshots Apple watch face with shirt design Meeting location finder for many friends to gather **TH Issues** 1. Small bot to capture spendings Whatsapp / Telegram / Glide App 2. Instagram comment picker 3. An android TV app that switch tabs in regular intervals


# LoopTube | YouTube Looping Tool I'm vibing to Ole Melady from Thallumala for last two days. A part of the song is really giving me an adrinaline rush and I wanted to hear that part alone. I was wondering about creating a tool that could loop a specific part of YouTube for some time, but today found this tool that could simply do the same. Check out the clipped part in infitie loop [here](https://looptube.io/?videoId=WD87mrr6umk\&start=110.53274336283187\&end=145.55752212389413\&rate=1) Creating such small tools like this could be something interesting project for a weekend 🚀   ![LoopTube Screenshot](/files/A1VB26X5WJXQjo7PcMj0)